The Place of Destiny Pattern in Our Lives
Destiny Pattern
Destiny Pattern is a subject put forward by Gülseren Buğdayıcıoğlu. The word destiny has always been a very complicated word but in fact it is not a foreign word at all. This word is what happened in childhood. Our destiny begins to be written in the house where we were born and raised, together with the parents we have.
You were born home, what kind of parents you have and everything you hear between the ages of 0-6 forms our first language, namely our destiny pattern, but everything starts with the mother at first, then the environment expands as father, brother, close relatives.
In short, when we are born, the author of our destiny is our mother, and the signer is our father, that is, they are the first determinants of what kind of character we will have in the future. Destiny Pattern does not occur immediately, it continues to develop until the age of 7-15.
The pattern of Destiny can be thought of as follows.
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The first person you fall in love with
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Characteristic features of the person you are in love with.
In short, your stance in life, your attitudes, your beliefs and even your trust are all
factors that come from the past and change your destiny.
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"The motif of destiny always seeks what he is used to, learned and knows.Sometimes even beauty is too much for him. That's how he gets you by squeezing your leg, and takes you to a place where you will experience the same feelings you had in the house you were born." (Page The Girl on the Window page 154)
The Destiny Pattern is something that can be changed, so if the pattern is bad, your life won't be bad, so it's up to you to realize it and change it.
“The ingenuity is to invent a new key to the doors that life closes on us, even if our fate is not beautiful.” (Gulseren Bugdayicioglu's book The Voice of Life page 107)
How to Change Pattern of Destiny
But another method is to write everything down in notebook, that is, take a notebook in our hands and when I came home in the evening, what did I today, how did I do it, why did I do it. Keep a note of all the questions such as why I gave priority to others, not to myself, and answer them.This is not just a one-time process, it should be done every day and read in the notes from the previous days, because then it already becomes clear which pattern we are repeating, and the repeated patterns that have been made gradually decrease and disappear.
Besides that, getting ideas from people is the most important thing because people can always make mistakes without realizing it so it is always important to get the opinion of the surrounding people.
People are a social being, that is, an entity that wants to be included in groups, to be in a relationship with the environment, but it is an entity that is constantly asked to be accepted in these circles. Before accepting herself/himself, one does whatever it takes to make the environment accept her/him. No matter what a person experiences, good or bad, she/he should make peace with herself and continue her/his life. Everyone is trying very hard to change others, but if they change themselves, in fact, the problems will disappear, then everyone should correct and change themselves.
The change here is not in a bad sense, because no one deserves negative lives, we must change our lives and thoughts with feelings such as love, trust that we feel for ourselves. It is not easy to change, a person already makes the biggest struggle with himself/herself, but labor brings success.
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